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14 Ways to Improve Your Body Image

It took me a long, long time to fully understand that the struggle with my body image was keeping me from growing and expanding my entire life. I realized, in the process of struggling with my body image issues, I was disconnected from my personal power.

If I had been connected to my personal power, I would not have been critical of my body at all. I would have honored myself and only noticed my beauty and wonder. I would have taken action to create my most yummy life.

Instead, I stayed in pain and missed opportunities for fun, love, and adventure.

My BIG turning point was when I realized my body images issues were nothing but a BIG DISTRACTION keeping me in hiding, preventing me from taking risk and living the life I really wanted to live.

I deeply began to understand that obsessing about my body was a big decoy because I was really afraid of not being enough, failing, measuring up, to receive love, my life change, and so on, and so on.

I now know how to live a life FREE from struggling with body image issues, and I want to help you find this freedom too. It’s very empowering and life changing.

I learned a huge reason why we struggle. Struggling only keeps us from expanding and up-leveling our life and business. Body image issues constrict us (at every level) and deplete and drain us, and keep us imprisoned. It blocks true intimacy with life, keeping us from savoring or experiencing it fully.

When we obsess about our body, it is a huge indication that something is out of alignment within our heart, mind and life. It shows us we are disconnected from our truth and personal power and are hiding from what we are really afraid of.

Many women I have worked with have struggled with their body image. It breaks my heart because I know these women really desire a full and bodacious life with complete emotional and financial freedom.

Body image issues are a big distraction, keeping you confined from taking action and fully creating the life you want.

Here are some guidelines you can follow to move away from body image issues and into full freedom where you love your body and allow success to come to you:

Who would you be and what would do (confident, happy, blissful, really successful)?

  1. Your body is completely brilliant and takes care of all things for you. Honor it. Respect it. Fuel it and listen to it.
  2. Create a list of all the wonderful things your body lets you do. Read it and add to it often. Example: I love my legs because they take me great places and I get to see so many wonderful places with them.
  3. Make peace. Your body is a beautiful vessel that carries your soul.
  4. When you obsess about your body image, ask yourself this question: “What is it that I really want in my life that I do not yet have?”
  5. Visualize feeling amazing in your body and skin. Fully connect to it. This will instantly empower you to take better care of it.
  6. Re-focus on something that you really love about your body (you will find it be willing to look with love).
  7. Reflect on all the things you really want to accomplish in your life and business. Realize that if you shift your focus away from negative thoughts about your body, you’ll move into beautiful thoughts of achieving your true dreams and desires. This shift will instantly make you feel better.
  8. Make a list of the things you have put off due to body image issues, then go and take action on one item. Notice how fantastic this feels.
  9. Write a Thank You letter to your body for all it’s wonder and beauty.
  10. Rest and nourish your body like royalty. Rest, replenish, stretch, massage, hydrate, and moisturize it.
  11. Exercise because it connects you with your personal power and makes your body healthy, strong, and shapely.
  12. Think back to a time in your life when you felt good about your body and connect to this feeling again. You will take inspired action from this feeling state.
  13. Write a list of at least 10 positive things about yourself and add to this list daily.
  14. When you find yourself being harsh on your body, get curious and find out what your really afraid of.

Doing even one of these action items will shift your energy, connect you with your beautiful body, and move you into a place that allows more abundance in your life.

Personal Branding – A Vital Element of Your Online Business

Personal branding is without doubt one of the most important components in your online business. Without it, you’ll simply be another little boat lost in the vast ocean of would-be entrepreneurs! So let’s look at personal branding and what it means to you today.

You need to brand yourself properly- if you want to stand out from the crowd, you’re going to have to set yourself apart from the others. You’ll need to differentiate yourself from your competition and to do this, you’re going to have to take some steps to change the way you go about things.

Ok, first off, you need to ask yourself some pretty searching questions. You want people to notice you but why should people listen to you? What makes YOU so special? What have you got to offer them? There are some simple steps you can take to ensure you head in the right direction and get where you want to be!

Take charge of yourself – make sure you understand both your strengths and weaknesses. You need to be totally honest with yourself. Make a list of points – what do you love, what are you good at? What exactly do you want to achieve? You just need to get yourself “out there”, to be seen and to get your name recognised. Don’t always wait until everything has been perfected, sometimes you just need to take the bull by the horns and put out what you’ve got so far, warts and all. In this way too, you can keep your content fresh, without re-working or re-hashing it. If you feel you must, you can always tweak and perfect as you go along. It’s part of the learning curve.

Personal branding builds your online presence – this is undoubtedly true. How you come across to people is often a deciding factor as to whether they will listen and digest what you have to offer or whether they just click off your page/video/article. You only have one opportunity to make that first impression, so make sure it’s the one you want!

Don’t forget that body language is vital when you’re dealing with people, either face to face or via a webcam. Personal meetings are often easier, as the direct contact helps but you’re still able to inject your personality through your videos if you remember a couple of simple rules:

· Be yourself! Don’t try to be someone or something you’re not

· Keep your eyes focused on the camera at all times. Eye contact is essential to engage your audience

· Smile! If there’s only one thing you remember and only one thing you feel confident about doing, make sure it’s to smile. A friendly, welcoming and open face will open more doors for you than a dull, listless face

· Make sure your arms aren’t folded across your body. This is a defensive gesture and sends out the wrong signals to those around you. No matter how nervous or shy you may be feeling, let your arms relax but feel free to use your hands – gesticulate and emphasise with your hands to bring points home

There is far more to personal branding than meets the eye and any would-be online marketer should be working on improving his or her branding to ensure they stand out amongst the vast competition.

Have Busy Hands, Not a Busy Body

I suppose I never really gave gossiping much thought before I became saved. In the world, it’s an acceptable thing to do. Everyone does it so therefore it’s ok. But, much like everything else that goes on in the secular world, once a person is born again, none of what the world does and considers to be normal is acceptable in the eyes of God. When you become in fellowship with Him, you can just feel His eyes as they go to and fro upon the earth to see who is righteous and just before Him. If you truly love Him, you live to please Him and you are transformed into a new being. The old ways just aren’t acceptable anymore, not to God and not to yourself. The Holy Spirit becomes your guide and will let you know when you aren’t pleasing God by the things your are doing or saying. You can’t hide from Him.

I am a fortuneate person because I grew up in a Chrisitian home. Both my parents lived godly lives and they projected this way of life into me. Gossip was never made popular in our home. But as I got older and went out in the world on my own, I didn’t practice all these values in my own life. I just never gave it much thought. I suppose I was made to feel regret later for things I had said, and all that did was destroy trust from others. I often wondered why some people got away with gossip and I never could? The truth is, no one gets away with it forever. God will always reveal this stuff to people so they might come to repentance and confess Christ. He will leave us exposed and looking pretty foolish. I myself got tired of looking like that fool. Because of my human weaknesses I remained in the dark about the right way to be living. I got tired of feeling ashamed for things I had done that I never meant to do. But, you can’t deny the things you get caught in doing and you can’t explain your way out of them. You just hope that you will be forgiven. I finally learned that I first needed forgiveness through Christ so that I could forgive myself for the things I had said and done to hurt others in order to expect them to forgive me.

Now that I’m a different person in Christ I dare not say things about people. Repeating things that are said to me just aren’t tantilizing anymore. I have learned that silence speaks louder than words. It’s a wonderful feeling to know that within me I hold the confidence of someone else. I never feel the guilt or worry that they would ever find out that I repeated something that was not intended to be repeated. Gossip does no more than create problems and negativity to those who come in contact with it. This is not Christ-like living. So why do people who call themselves Christian participate in it? It’s my guess that 1.) Either they aren’t really a Christian or 2.) They don’t know God’s Word very well. Both of which are a real problem.

Some people will justify their Christianity by saying they go to church. As the saying goes; you can sit in a garage forever and that still won’t make you a car! Then on the other hand, if you truly are a Christian who attends church and aren’t living a Christian life then you are in disobedience to the Lord and have no excuse for your behavior. Jesus talks about the dangers of a Christian who knowingly causes someone else to stumble and fall into sin. (Matt. 18:6) God will hold us all accountable one day. To which we can’t offer Him excuses.

The Bible says a lot about the problems that gossiping will cause. I find that people who love talking about others are generally bored. They aren’t keeping busy. This doesn’t mean keeping busy in other people’s affairs. God calls us to serve and serving involves using our hands. If we do serve with our mouths, we should be speaking words of God’s love and truth. This is not gossip, it’s edification. There’s a big difference. Gossip tears people down, God’s Word builds them up.

The apostle Paul wrote to the church in Thessalonica and commended them for their Christian beliefs even during persecution. He wrote mainly on the subject of Christ’s return and how they should be prepared in this event. It still holds true today. We should always strive to be ready for Christ’s return. In first Thessalonians Paul writes about the way Christians should be living.

“Furthermore, Brethren, we beg and admonish you in [virtue of our union with] the Lord Jesus, that you (follow the instructions which) you learned from us about how you ought to walk so as to please and gratify God, as indeed you are doing, [and] that you do so even more and more abundantly [attaining yet greater perfection in living this life].” 1 Thes. 4:1 (Amplified)

Walking as a Christian simply means to submit to Christ and let Him lead you into all righteousness. The only way we can do this to pay attention to what teachers and pastors are telling us. It’s for our own good. It’s not meant to go in one ear and out the other, it’s to be heard and done…every day. Virtue is our goal. Gossiping is not virtuous. Paul knew this and that is why he warns us not to do it.

Here is what Paul says about not gossiping;

“To make it your ambition and definitely endeavor to live quietly and peacefully, to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we charged you.” 1 Thes. 4:11

It’s not just a suggestion, it’s valuable life sustaining information for Christian living. We must make it our main ambition to live quietly, which is not talking about others. In other words, mind our own business. If no one can point a finger at us, our lives will be that much more peaceful. By keeping our hands busy in doing things that honor God, that will keep us from being busy bodies and poking our noses where they don’t belong. Then we won’t have to worry about who said what about whom. We can stop this fire of the tongue before it ever ignites.

If you find yourself talking about others, ask God to guard your mouth from saying anything that shouldn’t be said. If you hear gossip simply turn and walk away. Don’t play into the whiles of the devil. Stop and consider how you feel when people are talking about you behind your back. Take your concerns to God, only He can solve the problem. Take action in allowing Him to keep you from creating the problem. If we feel the need to talk, let’s talk about God. Only good can come of it.

Only after talking to God about people are we ready to talk to people about God?