Body Language For Business

People do not realize the importance of body language. When speaking to people, we know what language we are speaking. But at the same time we are speaking a whole other language, body language. Plus the person you are talking to does not realize the effect it is having on them.

When talking to people you may be saying one thing but your body could be saying something completely different. You don’t have to say a word but your body language will tell your true feelings and thoughts. I am sure you have heard the old expression, “Actions speak louder then words”.

They say, the eyes are the windows to the soul. Besides speaking, the eyes are the most obvious way you communicate. When speaking to someone the eyes are the first place a person will look. When a person is gazing directly at you, you show interest. If you fail to make eye contact you give the impression that the other person is of no importance.
Maintain eye contact about 60% of the time in order to look interested, but not aggressive.

Your facial expression will tell people a lot about your feelings. It is a form of non-verbal communication. Your facial expression communicates happiness, sadness, fear, anger, disgust, surprise and the list goes on and on. It is important to be aware of your expression during a presentation.

Your mouth can say a lot without even speaking. Smiling adds a sense of confidence and warmth. People are more receptive when they see a warm smile.

The placement of arms can tell what a person is feeling. Arms folded over a person’s chest can mean they have no interest in what is being said. The best way to use your arms is to keep them by your side. You will look more relaxed and confident if the arms are kept by your side. Waving your arms around may hurt your image.

Do not put your hands in your pockets or clasp in front of or behind the body. Your hands should never be above your neck. It is unprofessional to touch your hair or face during an interview or presentation. Or if sitting at a table do not put your hands under it.

The position of your legs can tell a lot as well. Moving your legs a lot shows you are nervous. Never cross your legs. The polished professional has their feet flat on the floor or legs crossed at the ankles.

Achieving a Healthy Lifestyle For the Busy Body

American’s lifestyles have become notorious for being ridiculously busy and having us always on the go. Unfortunately, our health has taken a back seat to the rest of our daily activities and this is leading to a rapidly increasing amount of Americans whom are obese or overweight. If you pair our always on the go lifestyle with always on the go food, its as easy as 1+1=2. Fast food is the worst food for you, and since you are not working out, you do begin to double from your previous size.

Most people i talk to complain their is just not enough time in the day for them to get an efficient workout. I run a full time IT consulting company, and still manage to workout daily. The key with fitness is priority. I understand you may not have 2 hours to devote to working out, but I am sure you can find 30 minutes, if you match that up with waking up an extra 30 minutes earlier, you have given yourself a full hour to get a very efficient workout. You should not be working your muscles out for more than an hour anyways, since your body then begins to release cortisol afterwards which is a cannibalistic enzyme. This provides the opposite effect of what you are trying to achieve. So, what kind of workout should you do?

I am sure you have all seen 300, or maybe Terrell Owens enthralled in himself over his body. They are both the product of circuit training(very very intense circuit training, but nonetheless). Circuit training for me is the most effective workout routine for multiple reasons.

  • It is by far the fastest and most efficient way to workout, great for the busy bees in the world.
  • If you are looking to shred fat and gain muscle, look no further.
  • You are constantly moving from one exercise to another, great for burning extra calories rather than sit around for 2 minutes resting.
  • You build lean muscle mass, which in simplified terms is Brad Pitt, Gerard Butler, and Adriana Lima

For the majority of people reading this you are probably out of your teens and done with athletics, so the big ,bulky, macho man appearance may not be what your looking for. Circuit training is for the individual looking to build lean muscle mass, so ladies, have no fear of becoming a bulky bodybuilder. An effective 12-week workout routine can very easily transform your body, with just one hour of exercise a day. An average circuit workout should take 40 minutes, and you must do cardio at least 3 times a week if not more. I recommend running for 20 to 30 minutes, or swimming laps for 10 to 15. Don’t expect to be able to run or swim consistently, but gradually begin to decrease the amount of breaks you need to take to complete your cardio. Swimming is an amazing workout, and possibly the toughest cardio i have done. It is very gentle on the body since you are not pounding on pavement, and will have you gasping for air from just a few laps. I recommend finding a proper circuit training workout for yourself on various websites. They are a great resource for any information you may need as well as all types of great workout routines. Use their motivational stories to help keep you going, and don’t give up.

Last but not least, and probably the most important is eating. I am not a certified nutritionist so i am legally unable to provide any diet recommendations. But i will say to please remove the word diet from your vocabulary, because that will not get the job done. You will fall right back into a rut if you try to diet, you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. If you drink two sodas a day, gradually decrease your intake till you can replace them with water or some other healthy beverage like green tea. Water works miracles for your body and also allows protein to synthesize with your muscles better enabling better muscle development. You need to slowly decrease your fat intake, and try to stay away from all fast food. It is a heart plug disguised in food form, and is a body killer. Increase your protein intake to help with muscle recovery and growth, and eat mostly healthy carbohydrates such as oats, grain, and whole wheat pasta. Once you gradually make the change to a healthy lifestyle you will feel much more confident in yourself, more energetic, and your spouse or significant other won’t be complaining either(we should embrace that moment).

Email me with any questions you may have. 🙂

Best of luck

Breaking Up With Body Image Bashing

I’ve heard it all before..probably said some of it when I was still discovering how kickass I truly am. You know where I’m going with this, right? “I wish my hair was curly”, “I wish my thighs didn’t jiggle”, “I wish I was more tanned”, “I wish I was taller”, “I wish my feet were smaller”, “I wish I didn’t have a mole on my face”, “I wish I was as muscular as him”… blah blah blah.

Well, it’s time to bust up the body image shenanigans and reclaim your self-esteem no matter where you are at in life and no matter what you look like right now. I had a long and secretive affair with body bashing. Now, I no longer allow media, peers, or anything else to influence my feelings of self-worth. I had to break up with body image bashing as it was serving no purpose at all in my life. To be honest, I love my body. I love my lips, eyes, thighs, my hair, and my ears. More importantly, I appreciate all that my body can do. I am grateful for my hearing, my vision, my taste buds, my limbs, my muscles, my feet (which rock sexy pumps), etc. Do you see where I am going with this? I no longer succumb to the societal pressure to not accept myself. I have switched gears and have ended my affair with self-defeating thoughts and feelings. I cannot express in words the utter relief I feel. Explore your mindset – body image is influenced by so many things and by so many people; usually people around us or in our per groups. Guess what? Sometimes we even let stranger’s opinions or comments lower our sense of confidence – not anymore!

I believe you have suffered long enough. How many times have you punished your body for not meeting an unrealistic expectation? Do you walk past the grocery store check-outs and glimpse at the magazines forgetting how fake and phoney the people on the covers appear to be after the many edits and tweaks? The media sends the message that even ‘famous celebrities’ aren’t good enough; they need to be photo shopped and airbrushed.

It is time to break up with self-sabotage. How can you live a healthy life if you’re buying into this type of mind-warping garbage? My self-talk used to rush me to the nearest store, and I’d wallow in a tub of ice cream vowing to never do it again because come Monday I was going on a diet and starting a new exercise regime. Ha!
Proudly, I ended my secret affair with body image bashing and took control of my health; essentially my life. It feels so liberating to love every inch of myself.

How will you bust up your current body image bashing habit and get down to business. Body image affects females and males alike no ifs, ands, or but’s about it! It’s time to stare at yourself in the mirror and appreciate all of the wonderful things your body allows you to do. If you truly cannot bear to do that; seek support. There are a variety of tips and techniques; only you will know what will empower you to move past this traditional, yet annoying habit.

Improving body image is hard work – it takes time, energy, and commitment. Check your self-talk and be mindful of what messages you are telling yourself (on a regular basis). Treat your body with respect – believe me, it will thank you. Monitor your words closely. Does your self-talk change when you’re alone, watching movies, shopping with peers, with your significant other? Evaluate and explore. Recognize that you are not the size of clothing that you wear (hint: all companies create clothing in different sizes to affect your self-esteem in one way or another).

Be cautious, I hear the buzz going around about this fat-burner and that new fad diet, this magic potion and that new wrap, this and that lotion which (rarely) works. We buy into these myths and magical cures for cellulite and fat-reduction because we desperately want to fit in. We desperately want to be accepted. Guess what?? No one will ever accept you until you accept yourself. You are far more than your outer shell. Stop the affair now – your wallet will thank you, too.

Bust up the words you use to describe your body – what are your most fabulous features? What sports or activities are you able to perform because of your fabulous body? You’re either busting up the bashing or you’re carrying on in the vicious and uncomfortable realm of self-destructive behaviour. You are not alone and you do not have to tackle the ending of this affair alone either.

You deserve to accept yourself and love yourself just the way you are. Focus on healthy living and start celebrating your beautiful body today.

There is nothing better than embracing your body (including what you perceive to be flaws).

Confidence and self-acceptance are far more attractive than negativity and rotten insecurities; which end up bringing out the worst in people. Make today the day you break up with body image bashing – your entire life will change.